If you didn't know Friday is Valentine’s Day.
I'm single (by choice...?...!) so this holiday evokes a whole host of thoughts and feelings. One of the more common feelings for unattached people (women?) during this ever essential holiday focused on gifts and candy (promise, I’m not trying to hate, I’m actually a huge candy fan, just not those conversational hearts, they’re gross) tends to be wanting or longing for what we are each lacking romantically in our lives. This, while a bit unhealthy, seems to be harmless and perfectly normal.
What is not healthy and should be avoided are the thoughts of being angry or frustrated at people who are attached, as if they personally did something to us.
Don’t get me wrong, I am guilty of these thoughts at times myself. But it’s important to realize, and to be able to remind ourselves, that our happiness is not determined by others. On top of that, there’s absolutely no reason why shouldn’t be happy with and for others.
After all, happiness is not divided it's multiplied.
What is not healthy and should be avoided are the thoughts of being angry or frustrated at people who are attached, as if they personally did something to us.
Don’t get me wrong, I am guilty of these thoughts at times myself. But it’s important to realize, and to be able to remind ourselves, that our happiness is not determined by others. On top of that, there’s absolutely no reason why shouldn’t be happy with and for others.
After all, happiness is not divided it's multiplied.
Meaning someone else’s happiness doesn't and shouldn't detract from yours, in fact if anything it should enhance your happiness. It’s not like there's a finite amount of happiness available in the universe and by someone else being happy your happiness, or ability to be happy, is lessened.
I think it’s pretty obvious that this is something ladies like me and lady killers out there should keep in mind during Valentine’s Day, but this is also something really important to keep in mind at all times of the year, especially in our careers and in our lives more broadly.
What do I mean?
Well it’s very easy to get jealous, envious, or even angry at a coworker, a friend, a family member, anyone who is experiencing success in one or many areas of his or her life. But for the sake of what? To put out negative energy? To come across like a 5-year-old? To show that the promotion panel was right and you really are not ready to take on more responsibility?
I think it’s pretty obvious that this is something ladies like me and lady killers out there should keep in mind during Valentine’s Day, but this is also something really important to keep in mind at all times of the year, especially in our careers and in our lives more broadly.
What do I mean?
Well it’s very easy to get jealous, envious, or even angry at a coworker, a friend, a family member, anyone who is experiencing success in one or many areas of his or her life. But for the sake of what? To put out negative energy? To come across like a 5-year-old? To show that the promotion panel was right and you really are not ready to take on more responsibility?
Sure everyone has those moments when you’re just down in the dumps and nothing is going well and maybe it seems like everything is handed to s0-and-so on a silver platter. But I promise that’s not the case; or if it is it’s not going to stay that way forever. Instead of being the negative person be the person who revels in the success and happiness of others.
So while it's easy to get jealous, envious, even angry when you see other people experiencing the feelings or milestones that you want (a promotion, a raise, a charming and funny boyfriend, hell, even the simple delivery of flowers) stop and remind yourself that the happiness of others in no way detracts from where and how we should be deriving our own happiness.
And at the end of the day, energy is contagious to choose to project positive energy.
Happy 2-days til Valentine’s Day, y’all!
And at the end of the day, energy is contagious to choose to project positive energy.
Happy 2-days til Valentine’s Day, y’all!
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